A man should look for what is, and not for what he thinks should be. ~ Albert Einstein
When I read this quote, it really resonated with me.
My therapist often says “It is what it is”. Which on the flip side means “It’s not what it’s not”. LOL, same thing?
For me, Einstein is saying that I should look for what “is”, what is directly in front of me and accept it…not project what “is” into what I think I want/have/need… etc. He is speaking “mindfulness” perhaps without even realizing it.
I absolutely LOVE mindfulness which is the root of DBT. (Dialectical Behavioral Therapy). It is a process of retraining our brains to think in a more positive direction. Our brain is like this committee that likes to spit out opinions, advice, and judgments. What we “think” is not exactly truth. We can “think” that we are worthless, stupid, ugly, unlikable… whatever. Is it TRUE?! NOPE. But the committee can sure convince us of it right? So using DBT/mindfulness, we can get that committee to shut up. How? Well, when my brain starts with that nonsense, I literally tell the “committee” to shut its face. Not aloud if in public because that could cause other unnecessary issues. 🙂 But sincerely, I tell it to shut its face and concentrate for a moment on the “present”. I take note of the silence, maybe the birds outside my window. I take note of my breathing pattern, maybe pay close attention to how my skin feels as it “connects” to a soft blanket. I bring myself to the very second I am in. Then I redirect my thoughts. I choose to think that I am worthy, strong, independent, capable of what I put my mind into, capable of living and thriving, that I am beautiful regardless of how ugly my past mistakes were. I choose to think in a positive light. To be grateful for another day to grow. Lately, I have found tremendous happiness and satisfaction through my blog… feeling that I have offered some hope and inspiration to anyone who stops by to read.
Remember friends… “It is what it is”. If you do not like it, change it. If it cannot be changed, accept it. In practicing this, you will find more peace.
p.s. Getting that “committee” to shut its face will help too. Retrain your thought process!! Not to be done overnight, but it can be done. I have been practicing it now for 9 months and I am now seeing a “noticeable” difference. If I can do it, take faith that you can too. I believe in you. ♥
- You: Dialectical Behavior Therapy for Borderline Personality Disorder (natashatracy.com)