Day 4: Your parents
My parents… wow… this is getting DEEP. Here is my young Mom and my real Dad (who I obviously had some teen angst against).I colored out his face many years ago when I was going through a “why couldn’t he love me enough?” phase of my young life. Yes, that is me in the middle. We happen to be in a prison visiting area. Fun!
Real Dad, myself, Mommy
Weren’t Polaroids awesome!?
My parents were not good together. They definitely had a very strong young love but my Dad did not treat women with respect and thankfully, my Mom has a strong personality. She put up with him for only so long and then once it was over, it was truly over. I remember some good times with them together, but I remember more bad times.
My Mom, I have always loved and respected. She survived being a young Mom and did the best she could as a single parent.
My Dad has always been a sore subject for me. I know that he loved my sister and me but he had demons that he fought continuously. He was a drug addict and alcoholic. Sadly, he died as a drunk homeless man on a park bench. Here’s a couple posts I wrote about him: Miles To Go , Love Never Dies A Natural Death.
My Mom has become more of a friend and more of a strength to me over the years. This last year she has become more to me than I can describe. She has learned about my mental illnesses and has done everything in her power to help me. ♥ Her love has given me strength when I have been weak. I don’t know what I would do without her. We just had lunch and went shopping yesterday and it was wonderful. ♥
Here is a pic of my present aged Mom with my Step-Dad. He has been in my life now for a loooooong dang time. Hahaha… wow, 24 years to be exact!
Mom and Step-Dad
He stepped in and become an “insta’ Dad” when I was 12 years old. His personality and mine would clash during my younger years because I knew everything and obviously he didn’t. 🙂 I wouldn’t say he is a pocket full of sunshine but I am glad he’s around. (Gotta know him to laugh at that joke, but trust me, it is true… hahaha).
My other set of Parents are my Grandparents on my Moms side. My Nann and Gramps were the “rock” when I was little.
Gramps and Nanny
They helped my Mom whenever she needed it, so they were like parents to me and they meant the world to me. Sadly, I no longer have them in my life, only in my heart. My Nann passed in 2008 from Lung Cancer and my Gramps passed in 2010 from a rare form of brain cancer. I talked to them quite often as an adult and seen them regularly. It broke my heart when we lost Nanny, she was our German “rock”… when we lost Gramps, it was sad, but he was ready. He missed Nann so much that he truly stopped living the day we lost her. Losing him was sad for me, but happy for him. ♥ I will be writing more about him later in the challenge. 🙂
So, now you have met my “Parents”. I think I am lucky to have so many. I know that failed relationships can be hard on us as children… I just think of it as a blessing in ways… because I have had so many people care for me that otherwise wouldn’t have.
May my Dad finally have peace and happiness…and sobriety. May my Mom continue to grow in self and in love. May my Step-Dad continue with genuine smiles. And may my Nann and Gramps be swinging on a porch swing (like they use to do) while drinking Ice tea. ♥♥♥